To me, this is one of the hardest subjects I’ve tackled in my life. Harder than learning a programming language, harder than using a complex application. The results of being a socially inept person doesn’t have to do with “when to keep the mouth shut and show empathy”.
I don’t get people. Sometimes, it’s hard to understand the irrational thoughts–and believe me we aren’t stranger to irrational thoughts either. At best we are closer to being irrational more than they are. Getting people is hard, there’s no other way around it.
So what? Well, honestly I feel like the field is full of irrational people, hence why I said we are more irrational than “normal people” that aren’t in our field. We don’t know how to communicate our problems, or solutions.
If I tell a person the most logical answer to an issue that have been giving him/her grief with the family, then, do you think everyone can digest blunt “logical solutions” over a more humane approach?
And that’s what I want to get at. Although we eat logic everyday that does not make us right. If you think handling situations is all logic, then you’ll have a hard time dealing with all the in-between variables that might just become collateral damage due to your blind decision on just using pure logic.
And that was my downfall.
I don’t know how many people I’ve pushed aside, or burned bridges with over the years. The things I do remember I just learn to live with it; there’s no way around it. It’s hard to make friends, real friends. It’s so easy to lose them though, so incredibly easy it’s almost criminal itself.
I just wish that sometimes I could go back in time and change some things. Sadly, the world moves on and there’s no time to spend on “what ifs” or “if only…”. What’s done is done, the show must go on.
That’s why, working towards a better social attitude is the answer to most of my problems. It’s no longer about “how knowledgeable you are” or “how intelligent you are”. If you are incapable of basic social interactions then I feel we are missing something bigger.